The holidays are supposed to be a time for cheer and spending time with family and friends but year after year I find myself getting more and more depressed and annoyed around this time of the year.
I don't get the "Christmas spirit" and haven't for a long time. More than anything, I just see it as another year gone by and what do I have to show for it, nothing.
The worst part is that everyone I know really tries to "cheer me up" but that just makes me more irritable even though it's not their fault. I'd like to enjoy the season but it just doesn't feel like I can. Any advice?
Signed,
No Cheer Here
Dear No Cheer Here,
First of all, you need to see your life in a different light.
With all due respect, your words seem laden with bitterness. Your present mentality seems to be projecting a reality which you have been carrying for years.
You need to let go of the past and break the cycle.
How do you accomplish this? Change the way you see life. As this year comes to an end, look at life with your heart and unconditional love. Do something different. Take care of yourself first. Find love for yourself. Fix whatever makes you unhappy and whatever is affecting your psyche. This way, no matter what external forces are at play, they will no longer affect you in the same manner. Look at the holiday season as an excuse to treat yourself and bask in the glow of the wonderful person you are.
See others with love and free of judgment to start anew. If it gratifies you to do something special for someone else, by all means extend yourself. Don’t allow the holidays to continue to inflict the negative experiences and emotions you have felt over the years.
You are free to live a life full of unlimited bliss, so long as you will it. Every thought creates energy and that energy transforms into reality. You choose the reality you want to live and no one can make you feel inferior without your consent, for you matter and are loved!
Make this holiday season an excuse to enrich your life. go out and buy yourself something to treat yourself for all you accomplished this year - by your standards and no one else’s. This holiday season isn’t just about the “Christmas spirit”, it’s also about embracing the New Year and what’s to come ahead in a world of possibility which will open for you only if you allow it. You mustn’t get in your own way. Do what makes your heart sing.
This season, make it about what makes you happy and full. Start your day with a holiday breakfast, do some holiday decorating and listen to fun music. As the day unfolds to your liking, make the night yours and only yours. That’s right, cater to your needs and make it a romantic night for you. Light your fireplace (if you have one), read your favorite book and cook up a holiday feast for your beloved self or treat yourself to a fine dining experience. Find joy in the things you enjoy doing most. Watch your favorite holiday movies, pause and play at your leisure and follow up with relaxing music of your choice alongside a romantic candlelit bath for one.
By ending this year and starting 2012 with a full heart of love and self-appreciation, you beget what you put out and that is love. As cliché as it sounds, you can’t fully love someone until you love yourself. Love yourself and bask in your greatness. Set your calendar, send yourself flowers, a card and have fun with you. See this year as a year of change and growth as you set foot into a new year full of love. By using the law of attraction, the more love you send from within, the more it comes back times three. Start this season with love and enjoy yourself. May you have a year full of love, health, success, joy and bliss!
