Showing posts with label Pairings - Modern Introductions. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Pairings - Modern Introductions. Show all posts

Tuesday, December 31, 2013

Last Chance to Enter to Win a $250 Neiman Marcus Gift Certificate From Pairings - Modern Introductions!

Okay. You WANT a great relationship. You're gay and in Colorado. You're tired of the bar scene. WIN a $250 Neiman Marcus gift certificate by answering this one, SO EASY question for the Pairings - Modern Introductions: "New Love in the New Year" Contest: What is the single biggest quality that has been missing in the people you have been meeting?" HURRY. Today's the last day to enter. You'll win! Feel me?

Monday, December 23, 2013

Win Love (and Maybe a $250 Neiman Marcus Gift Certificate) With Pairings - Modern Introductions!

GREAT NEWS! You could be shopping at Neiman Marcus on Pairings - Modern Introductions! Yes, you read that right. Pairings - Modern Introductions will give away two $250 Neiman Marcus gift cards on New Year's Day, 2014. 

Simply "Like" their Facebook page and enter their Holiday Contest*. How do you enter, you ask? Answer the following question: "What is the single biggest quality that has been missing in the people you have been meeting?" 

Pairings - Modern Introductions will choose two lucky winners - you can be one! So what IS that quality that's been missing? 

*Pairings will be contacting contest entrants with special matchmaking package offers.

Wednesday, December 18, 2013

Win Love (and Maybe a $250 Neiman Marcus Gift Certificate) With Pairings - Modern Introductions!

GREAT NEWS! You could be shopping at Neiman Marcus on Pairings - Modern Introductions! Yes, you read that right. Pairings - Modern Introductions will give away two $250 Neiman Marcus gift cards on New Year's Day, 2014. 

Simply "Like" their Facebook page and enter their Holiday Contest*. How do you enter, you ask? Answer the following question: "What is the single biggest quality that has been missing in the people you have been meeting?" 

Pairings - Modern Introductions will choose two lucky winners - you can be one! So what IS that quality that's been missing? 

*Pairings will be contacting contest entrants with special matchmaking package offers.

Thursday, December 12, 2013

Enter to Win a $250 Neiman Marcus Gift Certificate From Pairings - Modern Introductions!

Okay. You WANT a great relationship. You're gay and in Colorado. You're tired of the bar scene. WIN a $250 Neiman Marcus gift certificate by answering this one, SO EASY question for the Pairings - Modern Introductions: "New Love in the New Year" Contest: What is the single biggest quality that has been missing in the people you have been meeting?" HURRY. It's over at the end of this month.  You'll win!! Feel me?

Tuesday, December 10, 2013

Put your Confidence On: How to look confident even when you’re not

by Charlee Brotherton

Not everyone is outgoing, outrageous and fearless – you know – those people we all envy. They walk into a room and the whole vibe of the room changes. The energy is catapulted up a couple of notches as they work the room with finesse and ease.

For those who fall into the ranks of “the rest of us” — well, let’s just say, most of us — tend to make less of an entrance. Instead of sweeping into the room, pausing for effect, and making heads turn, we slip inside unobtrusively, perhaps tugging at our clothes with regret about our choice of outfit for the night. Most of us enter the venue hoping to see at least one face among the crowd that shows a slight sign of recognition, or even a flicker of interest, as we squirm self-consciously in our seemingly “bad” outfit.

What do the outgoing, outrageous and fearless have that the “rest of us” don’t?

It’s self-confidence.

Building self-confidence is a process that whole books are written about by people with a Ph.D., M.S.W, M.S. or M.W. (By the way, what-the-heck is a M.S.W. or M.W., anyway?)

Who has time to read an entire book? You have an important event tomorrow night! You don’t have time to read the epic and highly entertaining “100 Steps to Being Self-Confident in 30-days.”

My hope is to put confidence in your hip pocket to take with you, wherever life takes you, and let it be a starting point to see how believing in yourself can transform into confidence. Here are some guidelines.

1. Be Prepared. Whatever the event, be prepared. Know where you’re going, know the time of the event, know the dress code and what the event will entail.

2. Pick out Your Clothes Ahead of Time. Don’t wait until the last minute to plan what to wear. Pick out something that you have felt empowered in when wearing it in the past.

3. Add a Fun Accessory to your Look. I love to add something to my outfit that will be noticed. Noticed in a good way. You’re looking for something interesting that will spark a conversation with others. My favorite hat, for instance, always gets noticed.

4. Say Positive Affirmations to Yourself. Write down a list of positive affirmations about yourself. Keep it close at hand. Read over it several times a day, and especially whenever you catch yourself experiencing negative self-talk. “I am interesting!” “I am a great friend!” “I am an excellent bowler!” Whatever it takes.

5. Catch Up on Current Events. You want to have some “go to” topics to discuss in idle conversation. You’re not only confident—you’re interesting!

6. Act with Confidence at the Event. If attending by yourself, enter the room with confidence, head up, eyes forward and with a nice smile on your face. Look for someone you know. If all else fails, give a wave to the back of the room. Everyone will assume you know someone in the back, or better than that, maybe a waiter will bring you a glass of Chardonnay! Work the room—don’t be afraid to mingle. Everyone will notice your cool purse or your silk tie. Make eye contact as you talk with people. Speak slowly and confidently.

7. Notice Others. Remember everyone got ready for the event just like you, probably feeling good about themselves, like you. Compliment others on their attire or accessories. This will open up a conversation.

8. Reflect. Once you are home, reflect on the evening. Make a note card of all the positive things that happened in the evenings. How you used these tips to build confidence. Keep the card in your desk to look back on for your next event. It will remind you of your confident self and put that negative talk in its place.

I don’t think the actress, Vanessa Hudgens, has a Ph.D., but I did enjoy her quote, “Confidence is key. Sometimes, you need to look like you’re confident even when you’re not.”

I hope these ideas boost your confidence and make for a memorable evening, with lots of good things happening that you subsequently took note of. Some of these things will be what you learned from me—but most, I assure you, will be what you figured out on your own from the remarkable new confident you!

Note to Self: New Year’s Resolution #4 – “Read the latest epic Self-Help Book on Building Confidence.”


Charlee Brotherton is Founder and CEO of Pairings: Modern Introductions, an upscale, personal matchmaking firm serving selective single gay men in the Denver Metro Area. 

Monday, December 9, 2013

Pairings - Modern Introductions To Give Away Two $250 Neiman Marcus Gift Cards

Charlee Brotherton, Founder and CEO of Pairings - Modern Introductions, an upscale, personal matchmaking firm serving local, selective single gays and lesbians in the Denver Metropolitan Area, announces the firm's Holiday Contest. Prizes include a total of two (one per individual) $250.00 gift cards to Neiman Marcus. The winners, one male and one female, will be selected on January 1, 2014, and the winner will be notified by his or her contact information provided within the Official Entry Form for Pairings - Modern Introductions, available on Facebook. The contest is sponsored by Pairings - Modern Introductions and has no affiliation with Facebook.

The "New Love in the New Year" contest is open to residents of Colorado only who are at least 25 years of age, interested in meeting someone of the same sex for a committed relationship, currently employed or a full time student with their own transportation, valid Driver's License and able to submit and pass a background check.To enter, individuals must complete the entry form in full via the "Holiday Contest" link found on the Pairings - Modern Introductions Facebook page and must "like" the page. Only one entry per person is permitted. All entrants must provide valid information. The odds of winning depend on the number of eligible entries received. The two winners will be selected based on their answer to the question, "What is the single biggest quality that has been missing in the people that you have been meeting?''

"I have the job of what could be called a modern day Yenta, a Matchmaker or Cupid," says Brotherton. "What many people tell us that they see missing in their dating experiences is that the people they date are not serious and relationship-minded. However, our service guarantees dates with compatible singles. We don't just celebrate the day of love once a year, we celebrate it 365 days a year. We have introduced thousands of single people with the hope that they will fall head-over-heels in love and live happily ever after."

Brotherton's introduction services currently encompass 21 local offices in 11 states. During the past 13 years, her firm has introduced more than 100,000 couples and has been responsible for thousands of successful marriages and relationships.

Thursday, December 5, 2013

Win Love (and Maybe a $250 Neiman Marcus Gift Certificate) With Pairings - Modern Introductions!

GREAT NEWS! You could be shopping at Neiman Marcus on Pairings - Modern Introductions! Yes, you read that right. Pairings - Modern Introductions will give away two $250 Neiman Marcus gift cards on New Year's Day, 2014. 

Simply "Like" their Facebook page and enter their Holiday Contest*. How do you enter, you ask? Answer the following question: "What is the single biggest quality that has been missing in the people you have been meeting?" 

Pairings - Modern Introductions will choose two lucky winners - you can be one! So what IS that quality that's been missing? 

*Pairings will be contacting contest entrants with special matchmaking package offers.

Thursday, November 21, 2013

For Gay Guys Who Are In Relationships (Or Want To Be): The Four P’s of Romantic Success

By Charlee Brotherton

I have the job of what could be called a modern day Yenta, a Matchmaker or Cupid. I am in the business of love. We don’t just celebrate the day of love once a year, we celebrate it 365 days a year. We have introduced thousands of single people with the hope that they will fall head-over-heels in love and live happily ever after.

Love really does make the world go round. Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs theory actually states that a human being needs to love and be loved by others. Yes, we need love, but gay or straight, we all crave romance as well.

How do you sustain the wonderful feeling of romance in a relationship? Taking a closer look at our members and their stories, I have found that most relationships flourish through the regular, romantic gestures made by each partner. It’s quite simple; each is trying to please the other. By studying successful relationships, I’ve come up with what I call the “Four P’s of Romantic Success.”

Make Romance a “Priority”
First, decide today that you want to make romance a Priority in your relationship. By making this decision, you will begin thinking how you can make time for your partner and do things that will please them—just like when your relationship was new.

“Plan” Things to do Together

In the movies, romance is spontaneous and just happens. In reality, actors are following scripts, line by line. You don’t have to follow a script to be romantic, but some Planning sure will help. Remember, a great date doesn’t just happen, someone has to plan it. Start a romance file. Keep fun ideas that you and your partner can do together. The next time you are looking for something fun to do together, the answer will be right at your fingertips. And yes—we have all heard it before, set aside a date night just for the two of you. It really does work.

Engage Your “Playful” Side
Next, keep a Playful attitude. Romantic moments engage the playful side of us. Think back on your relationship when it was new. I bet there was a lot of laughter and kidding around. Lighten up, forget about the mortgage and your job—just find something fun to do together.

Be Willing to “Participate”
You have heard the saying, “It takes two to tango.” For romance to flourish, both partners must be willing to Participate. You can’t have fun if one person does not want to be romantic. It is a win-win situation when you both are in the game and participate.

By just following the Four P’s, making it a Priority, Planning, being Playful and Participating, you too can add romance to your relationship! You can go from a ho-hum relationship to one that is everything you want it to be … better than in the movies!


Charlee Brotherton is Founder and CEO of Pairings: Modern Introductions, an upscale, personal matchmaking firm serving selective single gay men in the Denver Metro Area.