With a passion for writing and performing, Eric uses his honed skills and intuition to guide, communicate and connect with the people around him.
The best advice he can give is, “Grow from light and always find truth within you. Reach for the galaxies, shoot beyond the stars and always aim with your heart.”
Dear Ask Eric,
I really like, and in many ways, love, a man who I have been seeing off and on for about five years. The problem is that he doesn't want to be seen in public with me, at least not when his friends are around. He says he loves me and he wants to be in a relationship with me, but we rarely go on "dates" to anywhere public. We sometimes go to the movies, but most often, I go over to his house and watch television and spend the night. When we are at a party, a bar, or a public event where his friends are, we spend most of the night texting sexy messages to each other from across the room.
I'm not hideous. In fact, I'm quite popular at the clubs, and a lot of guys hit on me and have no problem being seen with me. He knows this, because he sees them hitting on me from his perch across the bar, but it doesn't seem to change how he feels about being public with our relationship. Why is he acting like this?
Signed,
Good enough to screw, but not good enough to street
Dear Good enough to screw, but not good enough to street,
What do you love so much about this man that you allow your self-esteem and self-concept to be compromised? Is this man out of the closet? Married? Or does he come from a traditional background? Factor all these possibilities and ask yourself what you deserve.
Although the relationship has lasted on-and-off for five years, you need to awaken from the comfort you allowed yourself to fall into and honor your own standards. Be a man whom knows what he wants and gets it. If this man isn’t ready for public displays of affection, maybe it’s his own insecurity he has to deal with, yet you shouldn’t allow it to affect you. I suggest you move on and be with someone who appreciates you and all you offer.Don’t settle for the next best thing, or fall in love with the idea of love; falling in love is reciprocated by nature, do not fool yourself or try to convince yourself that he will change if he already hasn’t in five years.
Surround yourself with those who are proud to be in your life. There is no shame in love. I suggest you change your phone number and start new. You are loved by so many, don’t neglect and deprive yourself of the love you so rightfully deserve.
Know you have my support and always follow your heart.
Eric Kehela has worked as a life-coach and therapist and is currently pursuing a Master's degree in Professional Counseling. His goal is to make a difference and help others along the way.
