Ask Eric Anything: I Want A New Life

By Eric Kehela

Dear Eric, I want to start my life over from scratch. I want a new job, a new place to live, and new friends and romantic interests but I feel stuck. How can I sever the ties of my old life and start the new one that I want? Everything is just old and stale to me and I want and need new experiences and I need them ASAP.

Thanks, B.

Dearest B,

“Life is like a game of cards. The hand you are dealt is determinism; the way you play it is free will.” Jawaharlal Nehru - Former Prime Minister of India

The best thing I can advise you to do is first identify what you really desire to make your heart sing, then act upon it and indeed change your scenery.

Finding the right place isn't a matter of throwing darts at a map while blindfolded, as the universe and its infinite wisdom is telling you that your energy and setting are stagnant and require a much needed change, as something in your life (or everything) may be lacking growth.

It is important to listen to what your inner heart-instinct dictates; similarly, as the birds fly for warmth in the winter, so must you heed your own red-flags especially if you are feeling stuck. If you are sincerely ready for a change of vista, look online (Google, prideroommates.com, craigslist.org, etc.), visit your local library or bookstore for resources to facilitate in finding a destination of your preference. Research the places and things which can bring you joy and success in all you do, as it is best to be informed and prepared. Spontaneity can be fun, however, you must ensure that your happiness is life-long and not a temporary form of instant satisfaction and gratification; therefore, choose your destination wisely and behave accordingly.

If your present scenery is numbing, new avenues may be just what you need whether it's a view of the ocean or the experience and closeness a small town has to offer.

Once you know where you’d like to be, start looking online for an opportunity in career advancement; find the companies you would like to work for and apply through the careers section of the web-page.

Be determined and motivated to embark on your new adventure. This will ensure a beautiful and successful life with your well-being in consideration. Creating a new reality can fulfill your desire for change and you will benefit from a new found identity and a fresh outlook - something which always brings the benefits of meeting new people, a romantic interest or both.

For your life to be a success you must bask in your present and feel fulfilled every step-of the way.

Keep in touch with any family you may have a heart-to-heart connection to (if applicable), as it is always nice to have someone to talk to and confide in – even if from afar. Your friends or acquaintances will wish you the very best. Life goes on and so must you.

Establish yourself as you see fit in the new reality of your choosing. Also, this fresh start isn’t just for your corporeal reality; it is an opportunity for you to surround yourself in positivity and only that which resonates with you.

Go out and conquer your reality and make every moment in your life full of happiness and satisfaction. If you are running away from something, be prepared to face the consequences of your actions and decisions; your time away in your new start will allow you to have enough time to reflect on anything which wasn’t conducive to your own evolution as a being of love and creation. Others may advise you to take a long vacation, yet the idea of coming back to what you want to leave behind can prove less than useful.

Make the best of your time and enjoy your life. Good luck on your endeavors and may your path be open and abundant!

Eric Kehela has worked as a life-coach and therapist and is currently pursuing a Master's degree  in Professional Counseling. His goal is to make a difference and help others along the way.