By Eric Kehela
Ask Eric Anything's Eric Kehela enjoys being a full time life enthusiast with a zest for
the finer things in life which include positive thinking and manifesting
a wonderful day each day; he is multilingual and holds a BA in Speech
Communications from San Francisco State University and is pursuing an MS in Professional Counseling.
With a passion for writing and performing, Eric uses his honed skills and intuition to guide, communicate and connect with the people around him.
The best advice he can give is, “Grow from light and always find truth within you. Reach for the galaxies, shoot beyond the stars and always aim with your heart.”
With a passion for writing and performing, Eric uses his honed skills and intuition to guide, communicate and connect with the people around him.
The best advice he can give is, “Grow from light and always find truth within you. Reach for the galaxies, shoot beyond the stars and always aim with your heart.”
Dear Eric,
This is kind of embarrassing but I think I am addicted to
porn. I watch it every day. I have little to no interest in physical relations
with anybody else at this point. The thing is, I'm not sure if this is a
problem or not because I feel like I am more satisfied with watching porn than
I ever have been with the actual act with other people. Sex with other people
can be awkward, messy or boring but porn is just about perfect every time. The
only problem is that I have this nagging feeling that I should be trying to put
more effort into my real life relationships. What do you think? I'd also like
to know if any of your readers have this same issue?
Sincerely,
Pornaholic
Dear Pornaholic,
Pornaholic
Dear Pornaholic,
You
must first ask yourself what it is you really want for yourself. Pornography,
although useful (if you will) is not comparable to real-life intimacy.
Do not
make excuses for your lack of interest in another, or yourself for that matter. With the right partner, sex can be
wonderful and full of pleasure.
Anonymous sex, although fun at the moment, does not suffice for the
completion and fulfillment of spirit and self. There is no need to deem sex
awkward with others, although you should be wise with your decisions.
Why
settle for the taxi, when you can take the jet?
Interact with men who value
your personality and respect your body.
A great partner possesses patience and passion when intimate. It is best
if you disassociate yourself from the quick-fix
scene, and start anew in your reality.
If sex is too messy or boring, you need to reevaluate your choices, and
those you invite into your energy.
Whilst your undertone is laden with fear of intimacy, you must open your heart and
be honest with what you know you deserve, and I am sure you deserve the
best.
Remember, visual stimulation
can be helpful and assistive as long as you don’t get sucked into the virtual realm of
smut and loneliness. In ancient times, sex was viewed as a means to release
creative energy. It is best to
harness your energy and release when you need to, as you could be draining
yourself of all desire and creative flow. Try releasing to imagery or your own fantasy – if you will, become one
with your body once again and thus you train your stimuli to become more
receptive to you and not what you watch.
For now, focus on repairing your stimuli. Then go out and put
effort into meeting the right person who will give you more pleasure than any
porn ever has. Be confident and
cool, as you have nothing to fear, the right man will present himself at the
right time. Focus on you and everything else will fall into place.
P.S. We all watch porn. It is normal after all!
Eric Kehela has worked as a life-coach and therapist and is currently
pursuing a Master's degree in Professional Counseling. His goal is to
make a difference and help others along the way.
