Thursday, October 12, 2017

Stonewall Fitness: Maintaining Balance in Life as an Active Activist

Photo By Dustin Krier w/ PFLAG Denver
By Dirk Smith

Our society is on an ever-changing landscape, the political, social and cultural aspects are always at the forefront of discussion. Everybody has a cause and we are all passionate about changing the world for the better in the best way we know how, fighting for your cause is one of the most important things you can do. It is important to be passionate about it and give it your all to enact positive change on our society. Yet we can find ourselves so involved with our cause that it’s easy to forget about the most important thing in our world, ourselves.

Activism is stressful work, no doubt. It can take a serious toll on the mind and the body. If we are to truly have an impact on the world around us, it is most important that we are the most healthy and capable that we can be to take on the challenges and stress that come with activism. Here are a few ideas to help you be as ready as you can be to take on the world!

Maintain a Regular and Consistent Exercise Routine

Protest rallies and marches require a lot of time on your feet, holding up signs, marching for long distance and many can last for hours if not days. Regular exercise and training can help you build the endurance and stamina to march and rally your heart out without getting exhausted and sore. 

With all the emotion and passion that comes with activism, taking the time away to exercise can help you relieve the stress and release those emotions in a healthy and productive manner.

Drink Water!
Spending hours on your feet, marching, shouting and talking, often in the hot sun. Dehydration is common and can lead to heat exhaustion and potential heat stroke. Keep water with you in a camelback or bottle to stay hydrated throughout your rally. It will keep you hydrated, safe and moving forward.

Photo By Dustin Krier w/ PFLAG Denver

Practice Mindfulness
Mindfulness is defined as "the psychological process of bringing one's attention to the internal and external experiences occurring in the present moment.
Using meditation techniques, one can practice and learn mindfulness and apply it both outside of activism as well as during activism. Having a clear head and focused on the moment can help you better stay in the zone and not to let the emotion and passion of the event overwhelm you. Once the event is over, leave it there. Don't take it with you. Take the time to focus on other interests in your life and focus on your task at hand. The activism will always be ready for you when you return, but taking the stress and emotion of it wherever you go will bleed into other areas of your life. It could affect everything from friendships, work, hobbies, and even other goals. It's great to have a passion and cause, but don't let it consume you and bring you down. Like Elsa sung... "Let it go!"
 
BreatheTake the time to practice long, deep breathing. Not only is it a form of meditation that can help you practice mindfulness but it also is an easy and quick way to release tension and stress.When you find yourself feeling tense, anxious, stressed or any other emotion. Take a few big, deep breathes in and out. Recognize your current state of emotion and take a step back. A good technique is to inhale through your nose for 5 counts, hold it for 1-2 counts and then exhale for 8 counts through your mouth. Repeat this 4-5 times.

Let it Go
Outside of activism, pursue other interests and things in your life. Leave the passion and emotion you have at the march, rally or protest. When you are there, give it all you got and when it's over, leave it there. Your other interests and passions are just as important, so take the time to develop those as well and separate yourself from your cause until it is time to give it your all again. 

Don't read into comment threads on the internet. As someone once said "Arguing on the internet is like playing chess with a pigeon. No matter how good you are, its just going to knock over the pieces, shit on the board and strut around like it won." As much as we might hope so, we are likely not going to change anybody's mind trying to argue on social media. So don't even try, instead channel your passion and effort into your causes and outlets where you can make a difference. Getting caught up in arguments only causes stress and anger but doesn't accomplish anything productive.

Remember, it's okay to walk away.



Stay Positive​
Lift each other up! As a community we must always be supportive each other. Extending a compliment, words of encouragement or even just a smile can accomplish a lot. It also will bring us even closer together. Unity is a powerful force. 


Remember there is always something positive out of every circumstance, no matter how dire. Pandora's box contained all the horrors and darkness in the world but remember what was hidden at the bottom? Hope! Seek the positive aspects out of every situation.
Always find an opportunity to grow and learn. We all face setbacks and defeats, but does that mean we should give up? No, it just means we are primed for an even bigger come back.


Activism can be quite stressful. There's a lot of shit happening in the world and it's easy to get discouraged. Remind yourself "Why". Why is this cause so important to you? You don't need to take on every cause in the world, just the one that is important to you. 


Go For a Walk

 
If you find yourself becoming overwhelmed or stressed out. Put a pause on everything your doing and take a walk. Even 15-20 minutes can help you release and disconnect so you can reset yourself and be ready to take on the next challenge. It's easier to face a challenge when you have a clear head. 


Activism is how we change the world, so to be the best activists we can be it is important that we practice techniques to help us maintain our health and enthusiasm. The world seems to be growing quite harsh, but maintaining a positive attitude and building our own self-confidence can not only help us become better activists but allow our activism to have an even bigger impact.

Are You Gay With Something To Say? Bloggers Wanted For Denver's Best Gay Blog!



Are you a new or experienced writer or blogger? Do you want to be? Or maybe you're just some gay guy with something to say? Well, what better forum for you than MileHighGayGuy?

MileHighGayGuy is looking for regular and guest bloggers to write about local news and events, do music and movie reviews, or write opinion or feature pieces from a gay perspective.

These are unpaid positions but offer the opportunity to be published in Colorado's Best Gay Blog (2010, 2011, 2012 OUTstanding Awards, Denver 2012 #WebAwards), expand your audience and gain valuable experience. There's also swag available in the form of free movie and concert tickets, music, books and other cool stuff.

If interested, shoot an email over to Drew Wilson at drew@milehighgayguy.com. And if you've got column or story ideas to pitch, this is the place to do it.

Wednesday, October 11, 2017

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DNC on National Coming Out Day

In recognition of National Coming Out Day, DNC Chair Tom Perez and DNC LGBT Caucus Chair Earl Fowlkes released this statement:

“Today, on National Coming Out Day, we celebrate the fact that love is love and are resolute in our belief that all people deserve to be treated with dignity. We remember a time not long ago when living openly as a member of the LGBTQ community was nearly impossible. And we honor those who have fought and struggled to advance the cause of true equality. Even more importantly, we welcome and embrace those who are openly LGBTQ, those who choose to come out today, and those who are still unable to live openly.

“Unfortunately, this year’s celebration is clouded by a presidency that is openly hostile to LGBTQ people. Donald Trump, Mike Pence, and their administration began attacking the LGBTQ community on their first day in office. They retracted the Department of Education’s guidance on transgender students, abandoned America’s global leadership role on LGBTQ rights, proposed cuts to HIV/AIDS testing and care, and just last week reinterpreted the law to give businesses a license to discriminate.

“Democrats are committed to fighting this administration’s anti-LGBTQ actions tooth and nail. We will redouble our efforts to protect the progress we’ve made. And we wish all Americans a happy Coming Out Day.”

Shamir - Straight Boy



Shamir has released a video for the song "Straight Boy," the latest from his new album, Revelations. NPR, who premiered the Ryan Carpenter-directed video today, are saying it's "raw and intimate, like a one-on-one conversation," while Shamir says the video is about "white washing and queer bating in media. Its about how frustrating it was for me to have my whole identity picked apart at a young age just to see straight white men use it as an aesthetic choice. The video, quite unequivocally depicts the process of white washing and the repudiation of the queer and people of color who pioneered."

Print all In new window Laverne Cox & Wilson Cruz Share Their Stories on National Coming Out Day

In celebration of today’s National Coming Out Day, Orange Is the New Black’s Laverne Cox and Star Trek: Discovery’s Wilson Cruz sat down for a candid conversation sharing the struggles and the joys of their coming out stories. The video is the first in a series of stories from a new partnership between Barefoot Wine and OUT, titled “One Stride, Many Journeys,” that will be released over the next month to toast prominent members of the LGBTQ community for living authentically and encouraging others to do the same. 

The video autoplays so I've put it after the jump.

Koelbel Urban Homes: The New Modern in Denver

Koelbel Urban Homes (KUH) has quickly emerged as a leader in creating urban neighborhoods that promote community and synergy by integrating life, work and play.

As the newest division of legendary developer Koelbel and Company, KUH is focused on in-fill properties, designing and building innovative homes tailored to each unique site.

Offered homes run the gamut of detached single-family homes to svelte modern attached designs featuring today's popular spaces, such as rooftop decks and open-plan concepts. All KUH homes, of course, are designed for optimum living and with respect for the surroundings.

Logo Airing 'Out In 60' Segments for National Coming Out Day

Logo will be airing the 60 second interviews from MTV International’s “Out in 60,” a digital campaign that ran during Pride month earlier this year, on broadcast throughout the day for National Coming Out Day. 

Some of the celebrities who spoke about their coming out experiences include RuPaul, various RuPaul’s Drag Race contestants including season 9 winner Sasha Velour and season 8 winner Bob the Drag Queen, Charlie Carver of Teen Wolf, YouTuber Connor Franta, and more.

Debt Free Guys: How to Become an LGBTQ Entrepreneur

By the Debt Free Guys

There are two reasons why you need to become an entrepreneur. The first is that 80% of millionaires are first-generation millionaires. The second reason is more altruistic than the first. We need more queer leaders in both the private and public sectors. There’s a lot of discussion about diversity and inclusion in the workplace today, and most of those debates are being led by those who haven’t had the same experiences and challenges as those of us who are LGBTQ.

How can you become an entrepreneur?

Become a blogger
 

Everyone today should consider starting a blog. Blogs are replacing resumes in some circles.

Blogs can lay the foundation of entrepreneurship. You can work out your ideas and develop your brand. Write to improve your writing. Your blog will introduce clients, customers and business partners to you. Your blog will make clear who you are and how you serve.

Join the Colorado LGBTQ Chamber of Commerce
 

You’ll want to join the Colorado LGBTQ Chamber of Commerce for two reasons. The first is that you’ll connect with local LGBTQ prospects and business partners with whom you may be able to partner or from whom may find other clients and business partners.

Secondly, local chambers of commerce have knowledge and resources, especially about local queer communities. Your other members will be useful resources for overcoming challenges.

Become a member of the National Gay & Lesbian Chamber of Commerce  

After you join the Colorado LGBTQ Chamber of Commerce, join the National Gay & Lesbian Chamber of Commerce (NGLCC). Most local LGBTQ chambers are affiliates of the NGLCC. The Colorado LGBTQ Chamber of Commerce is an NGLCC affiliate. Therefore, you’ll get a discount on a national membership.

Connect with queer groups in LinkedIn & Facebook  

For some of the same reasons you join the Colorado LGBTQ Chamber of Commerce and NGLCC, join LGBTQ groups on LinkedIn and Facebook. Join entrepreneur and business-related groups and groups that have members who may be good business partners or clients. Keep it a two-way relationship. Engage with and support others before trying to do or promote your business.

Apply for LGBTQ-friendly business grants  

Some companies need capital-assistance to get started. If yours is a LGBTQ-owned business, it’ll be helpful to use business subsidies available to our community to start or support your business.

Do a Google search, and you’ll find numerous local, state and national-level grants. BecomingSelfMade.com, which partners with the NGLCC, shares updated queer-friendly grant information, as well.

Applying for and winning such awards isn’t easy, but because of the size of some grants, it may be worth it.

Don’t quit

Becoming an entrepreneur, queer, straight or otherwise, isn’t easy. There will be times when it’s downright hard. Don’t quit!

As motivational speaker Jim Rohn’s once said, “If you really want to do something, you’ll find a way. If you don’t, you’ll find an excuse.” Prepare for the struggle and don’t give up.

Now get started and join the entrepreneur-class.

Transcend Auraria 2018 Facilitator Applications Due This Sunday

Applications for facilitators for Transcend Auraria 2018 are due this Sunday! This is a call for staff, faculty and graduate students from CCD, MSU Denver, and CU Denver to apply to serve as facilitators for Transcend Auraria Social Justice Retreat to be held January 19-21, 2018.

Apply to be a facilitator here: http://tinyurl.com/transcendf18

Tuesday, October 10, 2017

Mark Your Calendars for this LGBTQ 'Friendraiser' Event for Jared Polis' Campaign

https://www.facebook.com/events/1993444130924284/

'Tom of Finland' Comes to Denver this December

Finland's official Academy Award submission, Tom of Finland, will open theatrically in NYC on October 13 and in LA/SF on October 20 with a national release to follow in select cities.

Award-winning filmmaker Dome Karukoski brings to screen the life and work of one of the most influential and celebrated figures of twentieth century LGBTQ culture.

Touko Laaksonen, a decorated officer, returns home after a harrowing and heroic experience serving his country in World War II. But life in Finland during peacetime proves equally distressing. He finds post-war Helsinki rampant with homophobic persecution, and gay men around him are being pressured to marry women and have children. Touko finds refuge in his liberating art: homoerotic drawings of muscular men, free of inhibitions.

But it is only when an American publisher sees them and invites Tuoko over to the West Coast that his life really takes a turn. Finally being able to walk free and proud in Los Angeles, Tuoko dives head first into the sexual revolution, becoming an icon and a rallying point. His work – made famous by his signature ‘Tom of Finland’ – became the emblem of a generation of men and fanned the flames of the worldwide gay revolution.

WalletHub Study: 2017’s Best Foodie Cities in America

With World Food Day coming up and restaurant prices rising, the personal-finance website WalletHub today released its report on 2017’s Best Foodie Cities in America.
To determine the best and cheapest local foodie scenes, WalletHub compared more than 180 of the largest U.S. cities across 24 key metrics. The data set ranges from affordability and accessibility of high-quality restaurants to food festivals per capita to craft breweries and wineries per capita.
 

Top 20 Foodie Cities in America
1 San Francisco, CA 11 Tampa, FL
2 Portland, OR 12 Atlanta, GA
3 New York, NY 13 Chicago, IL
4 Los Angeles, CA 14 Philadelphia, PA
5 Miami, FL 15 Sacramento, CA
6 Orlando, FL 16 Houston, TX
7 Austin, TX 17 St. Louis, MO
8 Las Vegas, NV 18 Denver, CO
9 San Diego, CA 19 Washington, DC
10 Seattle, WA 20 Cincinnati, OH
Source: WalletHub

Come out for Safe Schools with One Colorado for National Coming Out Day

Tomorrow marks the day that lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, and queer (LGBTQ) Coloradans and their families celebrate National Coming Out Day to spread awareness about the importance of being able to be out and open about who they are and who they love. 

One of the best things we can do to support our LGBTQ youth is to create safe and affirming school environments. Click here to sign up for One Colorado's webinar on October 25th to learn exactly how to do that!
Did you know that in 2015 88% of students in Colorado reported hearing anti-LGBTQ remarks from peers and school staff on a regular basis? In fact, sexual orientation and gender expression remain two of the highest reported categories of identity-based harassment and assault in Colorado schools. Despite these realities, there are a number of actions that communities can take to improve the safety and inclusion of LGBTQ students in their schools.

Seth Glier - Birds

 

Grammy-nominated singer/songwriter Seth Glier has released his latest video for the track “Too Much Water” from his latest studio album Birds. The simple and emotionally raw visual flawlessly captures the honesty and vulnerability of the lyrics.