Valentine's Day for Couples
Do you need to spice up your love life a bit? This month isn’t just
devoted to St. Valentine, it is devoted to the love you have within and
how you can share it with your significant-other.
This Valentine’s Day
do something special, unexpected and outside-the-box for the one you
love.
Try hiding little love notes around the house or in his
bag/briefcase with a flower or two as a reminder of your appreciation.
Pick
up a special greeting card, or put your creativity to work and
create a card full of warm and loving thoughts. As commercialized as the
holiday seems to have gotten, you can still use it as a reminder to rekindle the flame of your relationship.
Candy, cakes and sweets can compliment your sweet words. Make the time to bake some Cinnamon Chocolate-Chip (if not allergic) cookies
with secret love notes baked into them (make sure the paper and ink is
safe for baking), that way he’ll have a little love note in each cookie.
If you have a night planned, make sure you have enough time to prepare
the romantic-unwinding portion of the evening. At either his place or
yours (or your shared abode, if you live together), make a trail of rose petals or love notes from the
entry-door to the bathtub.
Ideally with every note he should remove an item of clothing (“Happy Valentine’s
Day sugar, take off your shoes and follow the sweet trail to the next
note"). By the last note he should already be disrobed. Have a robe on
a hanger, with a note that says, “Put this on ... and find
me in the bubbles."
As he is doing his romantic
strip-love-note-treasure-hunt, you will be waiting in a bubble bath made
for two alongside a jazzy romantic CD playing in the background (The
soundtrack to The Talented Mr. Ripley has some nice song
selections). Have Champagne and strawberries ready by the tub. As your
Valentine approaches in his robe, invite him into the Bath of Love. Take it from there and make it a romantic night you both will
remember.
Follow up the tub with a nice body massage and cuddle by a
roaring fire. To ensure a successful outcome, maintain a respectful and
loving attitude towards one another and do activities and romantic
activities like these on a regular basis. Remember, this is the time to
replenish and reconnect with the one you love. It's the little things
you do to make him smile on a regular basis. This is the time to
reignite the passion and delve into your true feelings of appreciation
and gratitude for the partner you have in your life.
Valentine's Day for Single Guys
This month can sometimes test
your inner-strength as a single gay man but don’t
let this time of year get you down. Although you may not have someone
special in your midst right now; keep your chin up, your head held high, and a heart full of love, for he just may be right around the corner.
Remember it isn’t about, Mr. Right-Now, it’s about being patient for Mr. Right.
This Valentine’s Day is yours for the taking. And this is the year you give
yourself the love you’ve always wanted.
If
you do not feel you can handle this day because you are single at the
moment, live as if there is a special someone you are sharing this day
with. What would you do? Would you indulge in a dinner, perhaps a good
movie? Do this for the most important person in your life, YOU.
When I say “love-
yourself," I don’t imply narcissism, I mean the love that moves you from
inside, as if you were watching a Hallmark card commercial
- tears and all - that’s the love I mean. Love yourself as you expect
another to love you. If you know your future partner would do-for-you as
you would for him, then why not do it for yourself? You are an important
factor in your own happiness and reality, thus you must always be truly
happy from within.
If you feel up to it, you may want to get yourself a puppy; adopt a
new friend that will take you places and give you unlimited joy. You may
end up at a local dog-park and serendipity may introduce you to Mr.
Right.
Above all, enjoy this month with a heart full of love and a smile
that won’t wash away. This is the month to honor you.
Eric Kehela has worked as a life-coach and therapist and is currently
pursuing a Master's degree in Professional Counseling. His goal is to
make a difference and help others along the way.
