Books: You Got to Be Kidding! The Cultural Arsonist's Literal Reading of the Bible

Joe Wenke calls his book You Got to Be Kidding! The Cultural Arsonist's Literal Reading of The Bible an "engaging, provocative, and hilarious investigation into the bestselling book of all time." I think that description may be overstating the case a bit but it is an irreverent--sometimes ranty, sometimes funny--take on some of the stranger, sillier stories in the bible.

It's got pretty solid ratings over at Amazon and Goodreads and if it sounds like the kind of thing you'd be interested in, it'll probably be the kind of thing you're interested in. The chapters are short and punchy and make for excellent bathroom reading (no tea, no shade).

And it's got the fabulous (and fabulously named) transgender model Nina Poon on the cover, so there's that.

Summer Reading List: The Books of Matt Kailey

Looking for some summer reading? Check out the works of award-winning author (and MileHighGayGuy contributor) Matt Kailey.

Teeny Weenies and Other Short Subjects
Teeny Weenies and Other Short Subjects takes a long, hard look at getting the short end of the stick, both before and after transition from female to male. This collection of humorous essays explores identity, sexuality, and growing up female in a world with two sexes, two genders – and no exceptions.

Teeny Weenies and Other Short Subjects is available in paperback, on Kindle, and as an eBook download.



Just Add Hormones (recommended by Chaz Bono)
Just Add Hormones: An Insider’s Guide to the Transsexual Experience (Beacon Press) is an exploration of gender, sexuality, body image, and personal identity, as seen through the eyes of one transsexual man.

Just Add Hormones was on the Rocky Mountain News local bestseller list in September 2005 and was a finalist for a Lambda Literary Award. It is available in hardcover, paperback, and on Kindle.



Focus on the Fabulous
Focus on the Fabulous: Colorado GLBT Voices (Johnson Books) is a collection of 33 Colorado GLBT authors writing about their lives, their loves, and their state. Don’t miss this first-ever volume of Colorado GLBT short fiction, creative nonfiction, poetry, and experimental writing.

Focus on the Fabulous was on the Denver Post local bestseller list in September 2007. It is available in paperback.




Our Day Will Come
Our Day Will Come is a novel that explores family relationships, ageism, independence, and authenticity as two gay men struggle to build a relationship in a nursing home. It is available in softcover through online booksellers.

Our Day Will Come is available in paperback and on Kindle.

Things to do in Denver When You're Gay: Meet Christopher Castellani–Literary Judge, Jury … and EXECUTIONER!

By Drew Wilson

Christopher Castellani is the award-winning author of the Grasso family trilogy (A Kiss from Maddalena, The Saint of Lost Things, and All This Talk of Love) and the Artistic Director of Boston-based non-profit creative writing center Grub Street. Castellani brings his special brand of authorial authority to the wild, writing west this Thursday, March 14 with his Craft Tribunal: Words on Trial workshop at Lighthouse.

We caught up with Castellani recently to ask him a few questions about the workshop, his writing process, and Psychology Today.

The workshop you’re doing for Lighthouse is called Words on Trial. Why is it important to put the words in question on trial? How can we determine the guilt or innocence of these words and what punishment should these words face if/when found guilty?
I took the title from Francine Prose’s Reading Like a Writer: “As I wrote,” Prose states, “I discovered that writing, like reading, was done one word at a time, one punctuation mark at a time. It required … ‘putting every word on trial for its life:’ changing an adjective, cutting a phrase, removing a comma, and putting the comma back in.” This resonated with me because, as someone who reads everything like a writer (even when I wish I could turn off those sensors (and censors)), I have little patience for fatty sentences. And when I’m writing, I try hard to practice what I preach, to honor readers’ time by not giving them a single syllable that’s not essential. The problem is that the trial process for words is imperfect and messy and long – not to mention subjective – so even after you are confident that every word is essential, you’re never quite sure you won’t look back on a sentence or scene and realize it could have been tighter. What I do in the craft class is close-read a short-short story in which I believe every single word is necessary; we then try to apply what we learn to our own work. I also look at a story that is hyper-conscious of language, but which doesn’t always get it right.
As for how to punish the guilty words, that’s an easy one: Death By Deletion.

Can you name a time in your most recent book All This Talk of Love when you had to put words or ideas or a character on trial? What was the verdict?
Well, every single page, every single sentence, is haunted by the ghosts of words past. But there’s a long chapter in All This Talk of Love where one of the characters is losing her mind over a period of years, and where, to capture that, the prose veers into something close to poetry. That was a particularly challenging section because, even more than in the rest of the book, the pitch had to be perfect, and one false word would cause the entire chapter to crumble. I had to show a gradual degeneration without being too blatant and while maintaining the dramatic irony. For the 10 pages or so that ended up in the novel, I wrote about 25 or 30, and I was pruning and changing the rhythm of the sentences until the 11^th hour.

In a recent interview with Psychology Today you said, “I think the most important thing I learned is that there is no past.” What does that mean to you? How does that knowledge impact you as a person and as a writer?
As I said in the interview, as we get older we accumulate so much memory and so much loss and love. As a person, I find it overwhelming; it makes me more risk-averse, more tired, more anxious. As a writer, I think/hope it makes me more empathetic, better at more fully exploring character. My books have always been character-driven, but I think they’re going to get even moreso as I get older, and as the world of people I know and imagine becomes even more complex and layered.

Words on Trial with Christopher Castellani will take place Thursday, March 14 from 1:00 to 4:00 PM in the Lighthouse Grotto (lower level). Cost is $55.00 for Lighthouse members and $75.00 for non-members. 
After the workshop, at 6:00 PM will be The Pop-Up Reading with Christopher Castellani. Please join us for wine, beer, and light eats as Castellani reads from the book All This Talk of Love.

This post originally appeared on The Lighthouse Writers Top-Seecret Blog. Reprinted with permission.

Books: Betty White Rules the World

Who do we love more in the world but Betty White? Author Mike Pingel celebrates her almost 70 years in the entertainment business with the release of his newest book,  Betty White Rules the World” book The Ultimate (and Unauthorized) Guide to Television's Grande Dame: The Ultimate and Unauthorized Guide to Television’s Grande Dame.

The book is a funny, heartfelt and a loving tribute to America’s Sweetheart, Betty White Rules the World looks at her extraordinary entertainment career, her beloved characters and her love of animals and is sprinkled with funny “what-ifs.”

At the tender young age of 90, Betty White is going strong with two TV series and two new books!  She has given us priceless moments to escape from this crazy world with laughter. No other actress has the buzz that Betty has—from constant reruns of “The Golden Girls” to “Hot In Cleveland” to the Facebook campaign landing her a hosting gig on “Saturday Night Live,” Betty White has never been more beloved.  In her spare time, Betty selflessly helps vulnerable and endangered animals. Now, take a look at her storied television career and her impact on the industry and let's see where she goes from here.

Betty White Rules the World is the must-have book about television’s must-have Grande Dame written by Mike Pingel, the 70s TV fanboy.  Having penned books as Channel Surfing: Charlie’s Angels, Channel Surfing: Wonder Woman and The Brady Bunch: Super Groovy After all these Years! He currently lives in Los Angeles and stalks Betty White daily. 

Book Release Party Tonight For Denver's Author Michael P. Thomas' Latest - Kiss Me, Straight!

Denver author Michael P. Thomas will read from his debut novel, Kiss Me, Straight, at a book release party tonight (Tuesday, November 27) at the Denver Press Club (1330 Glenarm Place downtown) from 6-8pm.  The event is free and will have drawings for fabulous prizes, including CDs, Pablo’s coffee, and signed copies of the book.

Kiss Me, Straight is the story of Todd Eisenbraun, a San Francisco-based flight attendant who falls head-over-heels for Josh, a handsome—and hetero—co-worker. Todd’s friends, however—Katie, a flight attendant-turned-small appliance repairwoman, and Marzipan Q. Thespian, a man-dangling local philanthropist—think he’d be better off with his love-struck neighbor Chris.  Sure, he’s fat, but he’s also handsome, a hilarious playwright, and a great cook—what’s not to love?  They quickly become friends, but Todd’s idea of the perfect man is skinny and straight, and Chris is decidedly neither.  Josh may have a fiancée and a teenaged son, but Todd just knows he’s “the One.” But if Josh is straight, the road to love is not; Todd is jostled by internalized homophobia, body image issues, the glamorous world of sewing machine repair, and a community theater musical salute to the life of Judy Garland before he arrives at the realization that he’s been looking way too hard for something he may already have.

Born and raised in Denver, Michael P. Thomas has been a flight attendant for fifteen years.  Like Todd, he lived in and flew out of San Francisco for many years, and has endured more than one straight-guy crush.  In 2008, he moved back to Denver, where he lives with his husband.  

Books: Gay fiction deserve same space as straight?

Small press Seventh Window Publications is making an effort to place LGBT-themed love stories, mysteries and thrillers on the same shelves as straight fiction. 

"Having gay sections in bookstores gives the impression that our books aren't as good, when they can be as good and sometimes even better. We need to let people know that our stories are worthy of being told, that our stories have a right to be read by all, not just the LGBT community. We are deserving. We are worthy. And we need to let people know that," says founder Ken Harrison.

Books: How to Be Gay

The new book "How to Be Gay," by David M. Halperin, a professor of the history and theory of sexuality at the University of Michigan, Ann Arbor, is reviewed by The New York Times and The Guardian. 

"By teaching the young to adore old-time divas like Crawford and Garland, Halperin hopes to persuade them that gayness is about culture not sex, about solitary, subjective taste not shared identity," writes Peter Conrad in The Guardian.

Tranifesto: An Interview with Ryan Sallans

By Matt Kailey

While Nebraska might be a nice place to visit (or drive through on I-80), it can prove intimidating for trans people who are all too familiar with the murder of Brandon Teena near Humboldt.

But now a positive story comes out of the Heartland (and the state of my birth). Author, speaker, activist, and trans man Ryan Sallans introduces his new memoir, Second Son, detailing his both his struggles and his triumphs growing up, transitioning, and remaining in the Cornhusker State.

“I felt that perceptions around Nebraska needed to be changed and Heartland voices needed to be heard,” he says.

Below, he talks about his book, his eating disorder, his relationships, and what’s in store for the future.

Matt Kailey: You have been a diversity trainer and consultant since early in your transition and prior to writing Second Son. How did that come about, and what made you decide to be out as a trans person instead of to transition and assimilate into mainstream male culture?

Ryan Sallans: I was very fortunate to begin my transition and career working as a health educator with a non-profit agency. It was through my work educating communities, and my experience being profiled in the LOGO network documentary Gender Rebel, that I found the importance of sharing stories.

I didn’t plan to “out” myself and use my story as an example, until one day when I was working with some counseling students and they all were looking at me with the same expression, which I knew meant they were thinking, “Why is this guy doing this topic and how does he know so much?” I decided to let go of my filter and “out” myself, which then turned my training into a whole new experience for the audience and myself. 

I always work with terminology and society, but then open it up to my story because I feel putting a personal face to a word, label or identity makes the concept real. Being vulnerable with an audience and allowing them to ask me anything allows them to let down their guard and open up their minds to the reality and spirit of a transgender identity.

Throughout my life I have always chosen careers where there is a deep passion attached to it. Even though being out can be scary, threatening and draining, I wouldn’t want it any other way.

Ryan Sallans

MK: Please talk a little about the body issues that you discuss in your book with regard to the body-consciousness that you had as a teenager and how this was influenced by the culture and by your own gender issues.

RS: Growing up, I didn’t have the word “transgender” or the imagery of what that looked like to describe the discomfort that I had with my body. The only words I had to describe my discomfort were “fat and ugly.” Instead of recognizing that my body’s changes were a normal part of puberty for a female, I saw the changes as threatening. I believed that with each curve I gained, I became physically weaker and even more unattractive.

I kept hiding my body under baggy clothing and became obsessed with working out because all I wanted was for my body to be lean and muscular. I didn’t want to be seen as a sexual being. I wanted to be seen as a person dedicated to health and fitness. As I carried this dysphoria toward my sexual body into college, I took on behaviors that led me into anorexia. 

I knew throughout high school and into my freshman year of college that I felt very self-conscious about the size of my body. This was partly influenced by what we see on the television and in magazines, but those were only affecting surface issues. The deeper issues surrounding my gender identity weren’t exposed until I was in recovery and extensive therapy.

MK: You had a serious eating disorder prior to transition. Can you talk a little about how this eating disorder was related to or affected by being trans? In your interactions with the trans community, have you found that eating disorders are prevalent in certain segments of the community and is this a concern that we haven’t addressed?

RS: I didn’t have the awareness of being transgender while I was struggling with my eating disorder. I just knew that I felt uncomfortable and that my body didn’t represent who I was, but I didn’t know at that time that part of my identity was male. I do believe eating disorders are prevalent in the transgender community.

Sadly, there is very little research on this topic, but what we have been observing is that anorexia is very common among trans women who are trying to constrain their size and are fearful of muscular development, whereas anorexia and overeating are seen in the trans man community, either to starve the body of its curves as well as end the menstrual cycle, or to hide the body under layers of weight, which then serves as a protective surface against one’s internal identity. Along with eating disorders, the increase is self-injurious behaviors is also very concerning.

MK: One thing that a lot of transitioning people worry about is finding a romantic relationship. You had some problems with this as well. What did you learn from your past relationships and what advice do you have for transitioning people who have concerns?

RS: The most important thing we should do is honor who we are over any other person’s wishes. After my transition began, my first relationship went through some extremely troubling times, which included a separation. As we struggled, I kept trying to change myself to hopefully make my girlfriend more comfortable with me and my transgender identity. This isn’t the right approach because denying who I was only made me more uncomfortable in my skin.

If a relationship is meant to last then both of the people will not change core aspects of their identity for the other. Picking up your clothes off the floor and washing dishes after eating are things that we are able to change, not our gender identity or other aspects of who we are as a person. Relationships are out there, but they aren’t something we should be seeking when we aren’t able to love ourselves first.

MK: Your transition caused a strained relationship with your family, another concern for those in the process of transition. How is that relationship now? Do you have any advice or suggestions for others with similar concerns?

RS: The first thing we need to have is patience with our family members. This is a process for them, just like it is for you. Allow them to take the time to explore their own feelings and seek the answers to their questions and concerns. If you are starting to see an effort in the way they are interacting with you, keep that momentum going. If they continue to stay verbally or physically abusive, or if you find yourself completely drained and depressed after being around them, then it is best to just unplug from them.

Pay attention to the relationships in your life that give you energy and make you feel accepted and loved. When you unplug it doesn’t mean that you cut all ties off from your family, it just means that you aren’t allowing their reactions or opinions to have power over you anymore. The stronger you become as an individual, the easier it will be to handle family. It’s also okay to cry when you feel the urge to do so. 

I’ve accepted with my parents that although we are at a point where I can be around them, they’ll never be the parents I’d ideally like them to be (but I guess they could argue I’ll never be the child that they would like me to be). We operate in an adult relationship and lack the intimacy that I have with others in my life. I’ve gone through my grief and anger around these issues, and am now trying to move forward without the hope that they’ll ever “come around.”

MK: How do you feel about your body now? Do you feel that transition has completely resolved any issues that you had? In what way, why or why not?

RS: I have an eating-disordered brain, so no matter how defined I get I will never be fully happy with my appearance. It is just a part of who I am. The one thing that is different is that when I feel disgust toward my body, I don’t try to manipulate it through the behaviors I had with food in the past. It is a struggle, and something that wasn’t fixed by transitioning.

I find eating disorders fascinating because, in reality, an eating disorder is not about food. Food is just the tool used to cope with (or avoid) feelings. I don’t know how to deal with emotions except to first filter them through these old belief systems that I have related to my body. My brain has been structured in a way that can be very harmful toward me. This is something that I’m working on and will continue to explore as I age.

MK: Why did you write this book? Who do you want to reach and what do you want people to take away from the experience?
RS: I wrote this book because I felt like transgender individuals from the Heartland are lacking representation and a voice. When you look at our society, the only associations people have toward LGBT issues and the Heartland are the stories of Matthew Shepard and Brandon Teena. I wanted to help change that. I wanted to show people that you can be trans in other places besides big cities and liberal environments and still survive/live a fulfilling life.

I want to reach out to others that are struggling, like your book and other people in the trans community have done, and I also wanted to help those that are just curious to read about a life different than their own.

MK: Are there more books in your future? What are your continued plans?
RS: Yes! I want to explore some other areas related to trans issues, but I also want to get back into fiction writing and share the stories of lives in the plains of Nebraska. I have a book that I started writing in graduate school that ended up being my Master’s thesis in English. I plan to finish it within the next two to three years, and I’d love to see it published.

MK: What else would you like to say?
RS: If people find inspiration from my book, please consider visiting my website, www.ryansallans.com, and exploring my speaking topics for audiences ranging from academic, professional, and community. People can also follow where my book is going by visiting www.secondsonmemoir.com.

This post originally appeared on Matt Kailey's award-winning website Tranifesto.com. Republished with permission. 

An Event of Trysts and Turns: Queer Thoughts from Matt Kailey, Dan Stone and Jerry Wheeler

Save the date this Friday, August 3 for

An Evening of Trysts and Turns: Queer Thoughts from Matt Kailey, Dan Stone and Jerry Wheeler.

Come to Mercury Cafe and hear Matt, Dan and Jerry as they read from their most recent books.

Poetry? Essay? Erotica? These and much, much more. And feel free to stay after the event and buy a signed book. Or three.

Books: Victory - a new history of the LGBT movement

Rich Benjamin reviews “Victory,” a new book by Linda Hirshman that chronicles the American LGBT movement's remarkable progress from radical to mainstream. 

“Hirshman’s book, drawing from an arsenal of archival records, firsthand interviews, court documents and previous histories, is a sprawling account of juicy trysts, hushed political meetings, internecine movement skirmishes, sudden mutinies and activists turning personal humiliation into rocket fuel,” Benjamin writes.

Sean Wolfe gives it to me hard and fast

Drew Wilson

Sean Wolfe

By Drew Wilson

Sean Wolfe is one of the big names in gay erotic fiction.

As both a fan and friend of his for many years - we were both part of a writing group that included notable local gay authors Matt Kailey and Jerry Wheeler - I've had ample opportunity to admire his continued successes and to enjoy his work.

And I do mean enjoy! So I was very pleased to have had the opportunity to chat with him recently to discuss his new book, his new position at The Denver Element, and much, much more.

Keep reading for more hard and fast insights into the mind and work of Sean Wolfe.

Drew: Hey Sean, what can you tell me about your latest book? Is it really going to be your last?
Sean: My new book is called “Give It To Me.” It’s the second in a two-book series. The first one in the series was called, “Hard and Fast” … and is about what most of us consider “good boys” … teachers, honor roll students, preacher’s kids, etc. and their sexual coming-of-age and exploits.

“Give It To Me” is the flip of that (sexual pun intended) … about “bad boys” … thieves, politicians, bondage masters, rapists … and tales of their sexual misadventures.

I wanted to call it “Shut Up and Take It,” but my publisher thought that was a little harsh. Both books challenge readers to examine our own ideals and morals, and to reconsider what is “good” and what is “bad.” To look deeper and know that things aren’t usually as black and white as they might appear.

“Give It To Me” is my 10th erotica book … and definitely my last. Though not normally words you would hear coming from my mouth … “Enough sex, already!!” LOL. But it won’t be my last book. I’m focusing on more mainstream, non-erotic books now. I just finished my first non-erotic novel, a supernatural/psychological thriller.

As a writer of erotica, what is your "go to" scenario for maximum sexiness? 
This is so gonna make me sound like a chick. <sigh> But I think sexy only happens when the entire body is engaged and excited … it’s not all about the cock and ass. That is hot and exciting. But “sexy” is when the partners are so overwhelmed with one another that they struggle to catch their breath and swallow … that they can’t control their moans or the chill bumps on their skin … that the tickle and taste of their partner’s tongue on their body threatens to evaporate them.

 It’s about the emotion happening inside them, and not the sensation happening with their bodies. Oh jeez, that was so Sally Field. Drink your juice, Shelby!

Seriously, drink your juice, Shelby!

What impact has the Internet had on erotic writing/publishing? It was certainly a game changer for the video porn industry. Has it been the same for books or do readers still like to read? 
Yes, the Internet has had a big effect on written erotica. It’s so easy to pull up a porn video and get off. You don’t even need to fast forward through a whole video anymore … you can just watch individual scenes that are perfect for your particular … personal gratification needs.

But I don’t think it’s the same for books. People who read erotica aren’t reading it for the specific goal of getting off. Videos are much more visual … and hands free … more convenient for that purpose. People read erotica for the same reason they read anything else: they want to get wrapped up in the story and the lives of a character that is living a life (mostly) different than their own.

Though many men have told me that they enjoyed a happy ending after reading my stories, I am venturing a guess that it was after they’d finished the story and then made their own video in their heads about what they’d just read. It’s too hard and messy to turn the pages while your energy is focused … elsewhere. I admire their dedication to fine literature and the art of reading.

Poot!

What life lessons can gay men learn from reading erotica? 
That life is hard. <clears throat> Sorry, it was too easy.

Seriously, though, what I hope that gay men can learn from MY erotica, at least, is that sex is only a part of who we are as whole, perfect, and beautiful human beings. That sex can be HOT and interesting and fun and creative and funny and sad and multi-faceted. That sometimes it’s just a fuck, and sometimes it’s so much more. And that either is perfectly fine.

Oh yeah … and not to take ourselves too seriously. All it takes is one fart during sex to make you realize you’re not the fucking center of the Universe.


For someone wanting to get into the works of Sean Wolfe, what is your recommended reading list? Do you have a personal favorite book or story?
I have two favorites of my own books … and they’re my favorites for opposite reasons.

All of my books, with the exception of my first solo effort, are based on a common theme that ties each of the stories in the book together. “Close Contact” was my first published solo book. It’s a compilation of 23 short stories that I’d written for several gay magazines, and the stories are completely random and not connected in any way. I like that book because they are many of my earlier stories, and many of them have a lot more humor in them than some of my later books.

My other favorite is “Eight Inches.” Because there are only eight stories in this one, instead of the typical 12-20 that are in my other books, they are longer stories, and I was able to do a lot more character and story development with them. All of the stories and characters are inter-connected, and they all tie together as the book progresses.

So you're done with erotica but you will be continuing to write?
Yes, I’m “theoretically” focusing on more mainstream, non-erotic books. I just finished my first non-erotic novel, and am cleaning it up and hoping to send it out to agents soon.

I’ve been saying that since June.

Though I had no trouble writing the 412 page book itself … I find myself stuck on writing the synopsis and query letter. This might come as a surprise to you, but I have a little difficulty in being … brief. <sigh>

Come on in, the water's fine at The Denver Swim Club.

Where and how can we keep up with everything Sean Wolfe related?
The Denver Swim Club. <looks around nervously> Was that my outside voice??

I’m not very good at self-promotion. I post something on Facebook about once a month. And I don’t have a webpage. I’ve been saying I need to get one for several years, and I still can’t bring myself to get one put together.

If anyone out there is phenomenal at putting together a hot website and wants to take me on as a “project” … I would not complain. I also could not pay, since I work for a non-profit. But, I’ve been told that I give … Oooops, outside voice again. Sorry.

In what ways does sex and sexuality inform your new position at The Denver Element?
One of the things I love about my work with The Denver ELEMENT is that we are sex positive. We know that sex is hot and complicated and diverse … and that it’s an important part of who we are as gay men. We’re not embarrassed or ashamed of it, and there is no judgment placed on sex or the men who engage in all of its many … varieties. We embrace it and love it and encourage it. At ELEMENT we realize there is no cookie-cutter response to sex … we all experience it differently. We try to educate gay and bi men that there is a very large menu of options when it comes to sex and taking care of ourselves. And that’s important to us because we want gay men to be around for a long time. They are our current … and future … sexual and emotional partners, afterall.

In a nutshell, what have you learned over the years as an expert on sex and sexuality that the average "civilian" doesn't know?
Mostly that I’m not an expert on sex or sexuality. I know a lot about it … and I’ve been told that I’m good at … writing … it. Yeah, that’s it. But sex and sexuality are such individual qualities and aspects of who we are.

 It’s so very different for each of us. I can only be an expert on ME, and hopefully get close to being an expert on my partners – or close enough to make it enjoyable for all of us.

Other than that, sex and sexuality are sources of constant learning and experimenting and practicing for me. If they aren’t changing every so often, then I get bored. One of my favorite mantras is: “I don’t know what I don’t know, but I know that I don’t know it.” Learning the stuff I don’t know and adding it to my sexual toolbox is the exciting part.

That … and do NOT douche with cold water!

Succulent.

Author Christopher Hitchens famously said that “the four most overrated things in life were champagne, lobsters, anal sex, and picnics.” Agree or disagree?
Disagree.

 I adore champagne, and it makes me giggle like a little school girl. If you wanna get me in the sack, pop open a bottle – and don’t ask any questions if the cork goes missing. It’s embarrassing for everyone involved.

 Lobsters are sweet and succulent and buttery – and make the perfect after-sex dinner. And if you can watch me suck down twelve pounds of slippery pre-historic swimming/walking/sliding creatures with giant claws and still wanna take me to bed, then … well, I am in love.

At this point, I would hardly think I need to extol the virtues of anal sex. Let’s just say I’m a fan. A very big and dedicated fan.

Picnics are a’ight. As long as they consist of champagne, lobster, and anal sex.

Anything else you'd like to discuss?
Yes. Are you single? I have a bottle of champagne, a twelve pound lobster, and …

Sean Wolfe's books are available at Amazon.com. For more information - and the occasional update - check out his Facebook page by clicking here. 

Out on DVD: What's Your Number?

Enter to Win a DVD Copy of What's Your Number out January 10th from Twentieth Century Fox Home Entertainment as well as a copy of the book from GoodReads.com!

After reading a magazine article that insists if a woman has slept with at least 20 people that they have already missed Mr. Right, marketing executive Ally Darling (Anna Faris) begins to panic, thinking that she will be alone forever. With the help of her hunky new neighbor (Chris Evans), Ally starts tracking down all her ex-boyfriends, hoping to find her real true love while she helps him escape his latest fling. Hilarious hijinks and adventure ensues as Ally goes on her wild search for the best “ex” of her life, only to find what she is looking has been right in front of her all along.

Below, one of my favorite scenes of the movie.

Books: Why Are Faggots So Afraid of Faggots?

The editor's website offers the following explanation of the new anthology, 'Why Are Faggots So Afraid of Faggots?'

 

"Why Are Faggots So Afraid of Faggots? challenges not just the violence of straight homophobia but the hypocrisy of mainstream gay norms that say the only way to stay safe is to act straight: get married, join the military, adopt kids! This anthology reinvokes the anger, flamboyance and subversion once thriving in gay subcultures in order to create something dangerous and lovely: an exploration of the perils of assimilation; a call for accountability; a vision for change." 

 

- via GLBT Historical Society

Books: Leatherman: The Legend of Chuck Renslow

A prominent Chicago gay activist and entrepreneur is the subject of an in-depth biography, Leatherman: The Legend of Chuck Renslow, by journalists and authors Tracy Baim and Owen Keehnen.

The book contains more than 300 images, including murals and drawings by Dom "Etienne" Orejudos, posters for International Mr. Leather (IML), and photos from the Gold Coast, Pride Parades, IML contests, physique magazines and more.

Leatherman: The Legend of Chuck Renslow will be available May 10, 2011 on Amazon and at selected bookstores.

Books: Beyond Normal - The Birth of Gay Pride

'BEYOND NORMAL: THE BIRTH of GAY PRIDE' is the title of a new book by pioneer gay liberation activist Gale Chester Whittington (pictured right). His memoir chronicles his teenage suicide attempt while living in Denver and then moves on to his pivotal role in the real beginning of the gay liberation movement in the San Francisco in the late 1960s before returning to Denver where he owned Colorado Seed & Pet for nearly 30 years. 

 

About the book, La Gente Unida board secretary and longtime Chicano gay activist Donaciano Martinez says: “Gale and I first met in the mid 1960s at The Mixer, the Denver gay bar that is the focus of one of the book’s many chapters. When Gale left Denver and moved to San Francisco in 1967, he was conservative politically and remained so by the time of our Summer 1968 visit. His job firing in 1969 changed all that. Shortly before he and CHF started their unrelenting street actions, my four-day visit with Gale in April 1969 later made me feel like I had crossed state lines to provide aid and comfort to a new comrade in the broader peace and justice movement that I had been involved in since the mid 1960s here in Colorado.”

Books: Stuff That Makes A Gay Heart Weep

Freeman Hall, author of 'Stuff That Makes a Gay Heart Weep', has a huge gay heart and has waited his whole life to sound off on the stuff that makes it weep. Author of an acclaimed memoir of his experiences toiling in Retail Hell, he now spends his days running four popular blogs and dogwalking his neighbor's adorable canines.

In this laugh-out-loud guide to the dislikes of millions, the author invites you to kick back, pour yourself a Ketel One on the rocks, and get lost in the bitchiest bitch-fest west of the West Village and this side of the Castro. - via Gay List Daily

Books: 75 Years of DC Comics

In honor of the publisher’s 75th anniversary, TASCHEN has produced the single most comprehensive book on DC Comics, in an XL edition even Superman might have trouble lifting. More than 2,000 images—covers and interiors, original illustrations, photographs, film stills, and collectibles—are reproduced using the latest technology to bring the story lines, the characters, and their creators to vibrant life as they’ve never been seen before in '75 Years of DC Comics'.

Telling the tales behind the tomes is 38-year DC veteran Paul Levitz, whose in-depth essays trace the company’s history, from its pulp origins through to the future of digital publishing. Year-by-year timelines that fold out to nearly four feet and biographies of the legends who built DC make this an invaluable reference for any comic book fan.

Books: Paranormal State

Paranormal researcher Ryan Buell comes out as bisexual in his new book 'Paranormal State' detailing his life and work on the A&E television show of the same name.

Books: Obama and the Gays

'Obama and the Gays: A Political Marriage' is a new book by long-time Chicago-based journalist Tracy Baim. The book presents an in- depth look at Obama's trajectory on gay issues.

Baim, co-founder of Windy City Times newspaper, has compiled documents, photos, and interviews with Obama for a close look at how his views on LGBT issues have changed over the years, as well as the accomplishments and stumbles of his presidential administration. In the first book ever published on this important topic, Baim is joined by some of the most respected LGBT journalists, bloggers, and activists from around the US.

The book includes articles by Chuck Colbert, Lisa Keen, Karen Ocamb, Bob Roehr and others; essays by Wayne Besen, Sean Cahill, John D'Emilio, Kerry Eleveld, Rod McCullom, the Reverend Irene Monroe, Michelangelo Signorile, Pam Spaulding, Timothy Stewart-Winter, Andrew Tobias, and Phill Wilson; and dozens of interviews with Chicago and national gay movement leaders. Senior editors are Toni Armstrong Jr., Jorjet Harper and William B. Kelley.

Books: Portrait of an Addict as a Young Man

Today, out author Bill Clegg releases his powerful and incredibly honest memoir Portrait of an Addict as a Young Man, detailing his years of addiction to crack cocaine.

Of the book, author Michael Cunningham says, “Bill Clegg’s Portrait of an Addict as a Young Man stands up to Frederick Exley’s great memoir of alcoholism, A Fan’s Notes. . . . But really, forget comparisons. Read the book.”

See what the author himself has to say about the book in this YouTube clip.